A dependent person relies on others not only in being responsible for something but also in being irresponsible. He or she blames someone and/or something else for what he or she has to be responsible for. That attitude not only turns him or herself to be unreliable person, but also undermines his or her relationships with others. Such person will lose them as he or she continues in the attitude.
So, we try to take our responsibilities upon ourselves. However, can we do it always? Nobody is capable of taking all responsibilities of his or her life. Some things in our lives are just too big or too hard or too bitter to bite, chew, and swallow. Then who could be so strong? This may be a point that we may need a Helper who is stronger than us and able and willing to help us in his grace.
Jesus is the One. He said, “Come to me, all who labor and heavy laden, and I will give you rest” (Matthew 11:28). Actually he already took all burdens and loads of all people about 2000 years ago manifesting his love and God’s power. All could have been in the rest he promised since long time ago if they had accepted it, the gospel. He may be the only one to strengthen us enough for us to overcome our lives, even the too big, hard, or bitter things.
Therefore as we have him as the Helper, we may be able to take all responsibilities of our life. Furthermore, then, we will be able to help others too. If so, why don’t we just accept his love and God’s power he exhibited through his life, death, and resurrection to accept him into our life as the Helper (John 14:18-21)?
“I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you. Yet a little while and the world will see me no more, but you will see me. Because I live, you also will live. In that day you will know that I am in my Father, and you in me, and I in you. Whoever has my commandments and keeps them, he it is who loves me. And he who loves mewill be loved by my Father, and I will love him and manifest myself to him” (ESV).